We all need some motivation sometimes. A little bit of inspiration to get us going.

Watch the video or read the text below to find out how I can help you find motivation and inspiration.

Hello my lovely writers.

So, listen. You’re a grown-up. You know what you want in life. You know if you want to write a book or if you don’t.

You know how to write a book. Let’s be honest, you do know how to do it. You’ve taken the courses, you’ve done the workshops, you’ve written the short stories, you’ve been in and amongst it all for a long, long time.

You just haven’t finished that big novel yet, the one you’ve been wanting to write for a long time. 

We all need some motivation sometimes

You know what you need to do if you want to write this book.

The trouble is, sometimes we keep putting off our writing and we need that little bit of inspiration. We need some motivation just to help us gather ourselves along. 

I don’t want to tell you exactly how to write your book. I don’t want to tell you what you need to do or not do but I do want to help you get to where you want to be. 

21 Days of Writing Inspiration

If you want that little bit of help, if you want a little bit of motivation along the way, sign up for my 21 Days of Writing Inspiration. 

It’s going to help you get there. It’s going to give you the little nudge, the little move along and you will take from it what you need to hear from it and it’ll help you in the way you need it to. 

So, why not join me? You won’t regret it. 

Emma xx

Emma Dhesi

Emma Dhesi is a Certified Author Accelerator Book Coach and bestselling author who helps writers let go of perfectionism, self-doubt and writer's block through her signature programme, Unlock Your Creative Block.

She is the host of the YouTube Channel, Emma Dhesi, where she interviews debut and experienced authors alike.

Through her 1:1 coaching programme, Emma helps new authors start and finish their first novel.

Emma provides personal written feedback on their pages and guides them through the emotional rollercoaster that is writing a novel!

Your book is not your baby. I want you to move away from that idea and know that your writing is not representative of your self-worth.

Watch the video or read the text below to find out why you are not your writing.

Hello my lovely writers.

If you’re currently feeling a bit ‘grr’ about your writing because it’s not going how you want it to go and you’re thinking, is it me? Am I no good at this? Am I not worthy of writing this book? Am I not capable of writing this book? 

I want you to stop and reflect on the fact that you are not your writing. The quality of the work you do today is not representative of who you are or your worth as an individual. 

Your book is not your baby

I hear a lot of people talk about their novel as being their baby. While that can be a cute little phrase to use and indicate how much you care about the novel you’re writing, if you say this or think about your book being your baby, I want to help you move away from this. 

Your book is not your baby. It’s really not your baby. It’s not a living, breathing thing. It’s not a human being, it’s not an animal, it’s not a sentient being; it’s a piece of work. It is a story and, although you may feel connected to your story and you’re passionate about it, it really is not your baby.

Your story is something you’re creating separate from yourself. It is going to be a product you put onto the shelf and encourage others to buy, read and enjoy but it’s not a reflection of you as an individual, nor does it represent you and your self-worth. 

If you are having a day where the words aren’t coming, you’re not feeling good and you’re feeling blocked creatively, I want you to know that that doesn’t mean anything about you as a person.

It simply means you’re having one of those days where the words aren’t flowing and you’re finding it a bit tough.

It’s not about you. You are not your work, you are a  separate entity and a separate being. 

You are not your writing

A lot of writers, particularly at the beginning, see themselves as putting their soul on the page, putting their heart on the page and, if it’s not good on the page, does that mean they’re not a good person? Does it mean they’re not worthy of being a writer or that they don’t deserve to have an agent, a publishing deal or readers? No, it doesn’t mean any of that. It’s two separate things. 

One is you, who you are, all your God-given talents and all the things you bring to the world. The other is a piece of fiction you craft and create, work on, revise, shape and turn into magic.

It’s not a reflection of you as an individual. It’s just a piece of work you’re putting out into the world. 

If you ever find yourself saying your book is your baby, please don’t. Please know it’s separate. You are separate and you can do it. You get to come back another day when you’re feeling more connected to it and you get to do better work and get to enjoy it more. 

Don’t take your self-worth from your writing

When I’m having a bad writing day, if I go back to those words I’ve written that day a week later, I can’t tell the difference. I don’t think I’m unique in that. We just make it a big deal in our heads on the day but, once you go back, you discover that, actually, there’s no difference. 

You are not your work. Your work is something separate and I hope you don’t take your self-worth from the writing you’re doing as being representative of you. Sometimes we authors do that too often but, actually, we are separate beings, we are separate entities and one does not reflect the other. 

Emma xx

Emma Dhesi

Emma Dhesi is a Certified Author Accelerator Book Coach and bestselling author who helps writers let go of perfectionism, self-doubt and writer's block through her signature programme, Unlock Your Creative Block.

She is the host of the YouTube Channel, Emma Dhesi, where she interviews debut and experienced authors alike.

Through her 1:1 coaching programme, Emma helps new authors start and finish their first novel.

Emma provides personal written feedback on their pages and guides them through the emotional rollercoaster that is writing a novel!

Are you addicted to writing courses? I know I am!

But why do we keep signing up for more courses when we already know the basics and the fundamentals of writing?

It’s because it gives us a feeling of safety.

Watch the video to find out more.

Hello my lovely writers.

Are you addicted to writing courses? I am. I’m particularly an online course junkie. I love an online course and there’s a little bit of me that thinks, if I won the lottery and I did not have to work for a living and had infinite cash, one of the things I would do would be one online course after another. I love them. 

But I’m on a hiatus at the moment. I have given myself this new resolution that, for the next twelve months, I am not going to buy any more online courses. I’m feeling a bit itchy about this because I would love to buy another course. If I’ve got a new problem, or there’s something I’m thinking about, the first thing I want to do is go to an online course and find out all about it. 

Why are we addicted to writing courses?

But as I’ve been thinking about this and going back through the courses I’ve already got, I’ve realised the reason I want to do online courses so often is because it feels safe. I can feel I’m making progress. I can feel I’m learning something new without actually doing the thing I need to do. 

I wonder if you’re a little bit like this with your writing? It might be that you have been thinking about a story in your head. You’re thinking about story structure, but you feel there’s something missing and you need to know more about story structure so, if you read another book or do another course, you’ll feel like you’re learning and moving forwards with your craft. But you’re not actually doing the writing. 

It’s the same with character development. Maybe you’re a workshop junkie and you’re doing another series of prompts around how to develop character and you feel like you’re learning and moving forward and taking action but you’re still not actually writing the book you want to write. 

It comes down to a lack of confidence

What it ultimately comes down to is a lack of confidence. This need to keep learning, keep going over things you already know how to do and things you already have the skills for, is because it feels much safer and doesn’t threaten your security. It doesn’t threaten the level of imposter syndrome we’ve got around doing the writing itself. 

Something I always say is, the best way to learn to write a book is to write a book. That really is how you uplevel your craft. My guess is you have done a lot of courses, you’ve read a lot of books and you’ve attended the workshops. You know the craft. You know all the fundamentals. You’ve got the foundations. What you don’t have is the security within yourself to put those into action. You don’t have the trust in yourself to actually do the work of writing the book. 

It might be that you get to the first quarter of the book and then you stop. It might be that you get to the muddy middle of the book and then you stop. You’re not trusting yourself that you’ve got what it takes to figure the storyline out, to figure the plotline out, to figure the characters out and get to the end of the book. 

I know there are a lot of you out there who are going round and round in circles and never finishing the book. For some of you, you have been writing that same story for decades and never getting any further forward. It’s not because you don’t have the craft, it’s because you don’t have the self-belief. 

21 Days of Writing Inspiration

I want to help you get there. I want to help you get over that hump of not having that self-belief. I want you to sign up for my 21 Days of Writing Inspiration. 

For 21 days, I will send you a little video that’s going to give you the motivation and inspiration to get you going and to get you over that little hump and move you on to the next step of your writing. 

You can do it. You can absolutely do it. You’ve just got to believe in yourself and sometimes we need someone else to galvanise us. Someone else to remind us that we’ve got what it takes. Sign up today and let me help you on your journey. 

Emma xx

Emma Dhesi

Emma Dhesi is a Certified Author Accelerator Book Coach and bestselling author who helps writers let go of perfectionism, self-doubt and writer's block through her signature programme, Unlock Your Creative Block.

She is the host of the YouTube Channel, Emma Dhesi, where she interviews debut and experienced authors alike.

Through her 1:1 coaching programme, Emma helps new authors start and finish their first novel.

Emma provides personal written feedback on their pages and guides them through the emotional rollercoaster that is writing a novel!