As a beginner fiction writer, you’re probably already familiar with the challenges of balancing creativity with the inevitable stress of trying to stay in control that comes with the territory. Whether it’s the pressure of meeting deadlines, the anxiety of crafting the perfect plot, or simply the fear of failure, stress can easily disrupt your writing flow and make you feel out of control.
When I was editing my first novel, The Day She Came Home, I noticed that my main character, Nicola, struggles with this very issue. Like many of us, she experiences moments of feeling overwhelmed and out of control. But Nicola finds an unexpected way to reclaim her sense of stability—by immersing herself in the wild, untamed elements of Shetland.
The biting winds and harsh weather of the archipelago serve as her release, sweeping away her doubts and the negativity that life throws at her. The more she’s battered by the weather, the stronger and more in control she feels.
As writers, we all need to find our own ways to stay in control of our stress and emotions. For Nicola, it’s the power of nature. For me, it’s the solace I find in books.
Using Fictional Role Models to Stay in Control
When life’s battles seem overwhelming, I’ve found that one of the most effective ways to stay in control is to momentarily step away and immerse myself in the world of fiction. Losing myself in a book allows me to take on the life of the protagonist, sharing in their struggles and triumphs.
In doing so, I gain a bit of distance from my own worries, and I find that my inner resolve is strengthened. If the characters in these stories can overcome their challenges, then so can I.
You might think, “That’s just fiction, not real life. How can it help?” But for me, fiction has never been “just fiction.” It’s a powerful tool that offers a new perspective on the world, allowing me to see life through someone else’s eyes.
It’s an opportunity to experience different ways of living and approaches to handling adversity. Just because a character doesn’t exist in the real world doesn’t mean their story isn’t universal or deeply meaningful.
Take, for example, Jane Austen’s Emma. Emma Woodhouse is known for being a bit of a know-it-all, often getting carried away by her own desires without considering the impact on others. Unfortunately, I’ve seen some of these traits in myself at times!
But Emma’s story offers comfort. Despite her flaws, she’s not a bad person—just a bit spoiled and unthinking at times. Yet, she’s also loveable and capable of growth. This realisation helped me see that I, too, could learn from my mistakes and become a better, more thoughtful person.
Finding Your Personal Escape
Another character who has inspired me is Anne Shirley from Anne of Green Gables. Anne is hot-headed and stubborn, but she also has a big heart. She dreams big and often finds herself lost in her imagination. But that doesn’t stop her from working hard to achieve her goals.
Her journey to becoming a teacher, despite the odds, is a testament to her determination and resilience.
As a teenager, I found these fictional role models incredibly important. They provided me with examples of how to navigate the stresses of life, and their lessons have stayed with me into adulthood. Fiction became my release from the day-to-day pressures, offering me a safe space to explore emotions and challenges through the lives of my favourite characters.
But what about you? How do you cope with stress and stay in control when life feels overwhelming? Do you, like me, retreat into the pages of a book, finding comfort in the stories of others?
Or do you, like my character Nicola, find solace in nature, letting the elements wash away your worries?
Embrace Your Unique Way to Stay in Control
Every writer has their own way of managing stress, and it’s important to find what works best for you. Whether it’s through fictional role models, the power of nature, or another form of escape, the key is to recognise when you’re feeling out of control and to take steps to regain your balance.
If you find that large social gatherings or hectic schedules leave you feeling drained, consider carving out time for quiet reflection. Maybe that means taking a walk in the park, spending time with a good book, or simply allowing yourself to daydream for a while.
These moments of solitude can be incredibly restorative, helping you to recharge and regain your sense of control.
On the other hand, if you’re someone who thrives on physical activity, perhaps your escape is through exercise or outdoor adventures. Just as Nicola finds strength in the winds of Shetland, you might discover that a brisk run or a challenging hike is exactly what you need to clear your mind and refocus your energy.
Final Thoughts: Staying in Control as an Introverted Author
As a new writer, it’s crucial to develop strategies that help you stay in control of your stress and maintain your creative flow. Whether you’re inspired by fictional characters, like Emma and Anne, or find peace in the natural world, the important thing is to recognise your needs and honour them.
Remember, writing is a journey, and it’s okay to take breaks and find ways to cope with the challenges along the way. By staying in control of your stress, you’ll be better equipped to navigate the ups and downs of the writing process and ultimately produce work that resonates with readers.
So, take a moment to reflect on what helps you stay grounded. Find your personal escape, embrace it, and use it to fuel your creativity. By doing so, you’ll not only manage your stress but also enrich your writing, making your stories more authentic and compelling.
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Emma Dhesi
Emma Dhesi is an author mindset coach and bestselling author who helps writers let go of perfectionism, self-doubt and writer’s block through her signature programme, Unlock Your Creative Block.
She is the host of the YouTube Channel, Emma Dhesi, where she interviews debut and experienced authors alike.
Through her 1:1 coaching programme, Emma helps new authors start and finish their first novel.
Emma provides personal written feedback on their pages and guides them through the emotional rollercoaster that is writing a novel!
